My hubby went for a checkup with his doctor a couple of weeks ago. He did struggle with telling her he was still having trouble with ED and DE, but was determined to not walk away until he had told her. She sensed his discomfort and told him not to worry…she was a doctor, she’d heard everything and almost everything she’d heard was a legitimate concern. She checked his meds and none of them should cause ED and only one of them should be causing the DE. So they did blood work. After a week of phone tag and trying to get results, they have informed him that his testosterone is EXTREMELY low. Being a man, he didn’t ask for numbers, so I’m not sure how low they consider extremely low, but I intend to find out. Anyway, they are researching urologists to send him to. Hopefully they can find an affordable one and we can get to the bottom of this issue.
G – You’re welcome!
C – I got up this morning and read your responce to my venting. I does help to know that my feelings arent abnormal or that I am some kind of sexual deviant for wantng to have sex with my husband LOL!. When I first married my husband the sex was much better. I was only 28 and he was 46, i got pregnant after 5 weeks together, and then we soon got married. About 3 months after I had our daughter his E.D.
was fully blown! It didnt help that he gained 70lb in the first 10 months we were together, he now weighs 297. I try to feed him good and take care of him,(I eat the same food and only weight 107 after 2 kids) but he sneeks food at
work. I explained to him that not only will he be healthier but that his e.d.
will get better if he looses weight.(he is on 3 blood pressure meds http://www.sildenafil100mgtablets.biz and morphine) he says he likes being big and is not interested in losing the weight, I said dont you want to have a better sex life, he says it has nothing to do with his weight he has been big all of his life and the weight isnt the problem.
G – I would guess that the HBP meds and Morphine are “the underlying problem”. They certainly would need to be discussed with a doctor related to Whether – alternative meds might help the E/D. One should certainly, in your husband’s case, be careful about self-medicating for E/D. It would also seem More important – to ensure that he is not putting his life in danger – with the HBP issues – with what he is eating and similar.
C – One of you suggested I talk to my friends, I am 32 and so are my friends, none of them have ever experienced a man with e.d. I have 2 sisters, but once again they are my age and get totally shocked (and very uncomforable) when talk to them about my sex life. I cant help but think that if I were an older woman I would be able to deal with this much better, but the fact is I am only 32 havent had sex since my 20ies, and that I will never agin know what sex feels like. I do love my husband and am NOT willing to divorce, what would I
tell my children when they grow up and ask why did you and dad get a divorce, what do you say to that” mommy needs sex and daddy cant provide that” there is more to a marrige than sex i know that but the first year is so important for bonding realtionships and when there is an intamicy issue it makes the bond harder to keep.
G – I suggested friends and family – and that may not be a good answer for you. I’d suggest in this situation – finding “new friends” within this email group – at a distance – to get support from – whether – ongoing or situationally when things are Most difficult for you – would be up to you and potential friends.
A real important thing in all this is to try to Avoid – being emotionally isolated – Alone – feeling no kinship and support. Your best means for this may well be within this email group.
With what you’ve said in your two relevant emails – I’m still left with the issue of you needing to Confront Your Husband – and deal with YOUR FEELINGS – related to “his Sex” – which is not “Sex” to you – and Your Feelings – related to what is or is not done between the two of you.
It may seem cruel and “unfair” in a way to you, but it is important – that:
You either accept his “sex” – or cease having it and -
Particularly – IF – you Agree (outwardly – verbally – not tacitly through silence) – that You will continue to have – what for Him is “Sex” – that you get from him (in return) something he can give you (not intercourse evidently) – that makes you NOT feel used and taken for granted and not heard.
It is good that you’ve reached out to us – and gotten support here. IF – more doesn’t happen – though – the next time he wants/has “sex” – you will likely feel used and hurt – again absent you dealing with what has happened – such as – with some of the issues that others and I have brought up.
You have to consider – your life situation – and what you can and can not get in this situation. It certainly is and feels “unfair” to no longer have intercourse – at age 32. My last urologist told me that the majority of his ED patients come to him in their 40′s – which is when your husband evidently began his ED issues.
I think that you need to recognize what limitations – conversationally/emotionally – your husband has – such as his defending of his weight and his eating. You seem to really need to:
1.) Find support – as I think you are starting to do, 2.) Ensure – that you are doing your best at getting your husband to deal with his Medical issues – e.g. HBP, and 3.) Still – deal – with the issue – of – your “sex life” – and what is ok and not ok – within it. You obviously – can’t have intercourse now – however you can and should have respect from your husband and listening to you – to the point that you’ve resolved – the original triggering point – for the fight that you had – related to the “sex”. I would still return again to the point that your originally brought up – as to his words – that indicated – his dissatisfaction with things – “only after 4 months” (which for you triggered your feelings) – as he’s Not Happy either.
I’m not suggesting that you fight him or Strongly Confront Him out of Anger – but rather that you – over time – figure out how best to help yourself – so it (whatever it is) feels good or at least as minimally “bad” as you can make it – related to Your Feelings – with your life situation.
In figuring out how to deal with – his attempts at “sex” and your feelings related to it – as well as possibly helping him related to his own feelings you still need to figure out How Best to approach him as well as when to do it.
I hope that this is helpful!
to see about antidepressants. I don’t know how you can do this, but do it any way you can. This man is slowly dying and you along with him. Get relatives involved. Call your local mental health center.
who suffers with chronic pain, anxiety, major depression, and ED. I have lost over a hundred pounds and mind as well be invisible. He has no interest what so ever and that is hard to not take personal. he just sits in his room for days on in. It breaks my heart to see what he goes through but I can help feeling selfish and responsblie at the same time. The worst part is note taking the rejection personal. Since the depression and ed, he has become so detached and nonemotional. even if he wanted to have sex he cant with ed symptoms and it is slowly killing his self esteem and i feel helpless wacthing and not being able to do anything. I feel selfish in that, I need love, affection, etc. and its like I dont even exist.
I decided to go with 7.5 mcg of the prostaglandin with a 30 gage needle at $5 per dose. for Caverject, it was about $35 per dose. How ever, this place even will sell the Trimix in pre dose needles as well. Its only $8 per shot. The next time I order, I’m going to get some trimix. If I’m taking 7.5 mcg of the prostaglandin, I wonder how much I’d need of Trimix? I don’t want to over do it!
a bunch of 30 gauge syringes, and they sent me 29 gauge instead. They fixed it immediately.
29 gauge syringes are longer and thicker than the 30 gauge, and the 30 gauge work great for me, so I’d just as soon have a smaller, shallower hole
and it also bends slightly to the left. It never points up when erect it takes it’s shape with the bend and the head pointing forward.
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From what I’ve read, you should get treated for it if it affects your life, sex life, urination, pain, etc. Personally i can have sex the way my penis is right now, but i would prefer it to be straight. However i’m not seeking treatment for it right now since it generally works well in all aspects, so why mess with a good thing (it would be mostly a cosmetic fix).
Can you tell me what kind of mistake they made? Was it that they sent you
the wrong thing?
that told me that you get Trimix for about $60 or something like that? Can you give me the phone number of this place?
hoping to find the study I referred to. Alas, I can’t find those study notes. But I’m hoping that they’re buried in my delete file somewhere; so I’m not giving up yet. In some material you sent to this list, there was mention of “pFOX inhibitors.” This sounded like a potentially hopeful way to increase exercise tolerance. I believe the piece mentioned, that pFOX inhibitors had the effect of increasing the oxygen available to the heart, even though there blood flow was compromised by congested coronary arteries. Let me know if you find any info on this issue.
I’m trying to find more information on Carotid artery angioplasty, which is still considered to be experimental because there aren’t a whole lot of doctors doing it, I guess. It seems that the risks of complications are almost none(death rate less then 2% in over 5000 procedures done). So why they are still doing the Endarterectomy procedure as a first option, I don’t know. I guess because it’s just old school. I’m hoping that my mom will have an experienced surgeon who has done the angioplasty. The other procedure sounds to be just much too risky.
whenever invasion of the body occurs,, The only thing that motivates me, is a chance I can return to a more productive life style and by all means to avoid,a continued growth that will have but one corrective procedure available “Open Heart Surgery” I am all but certain I would never submit to that procedure.
After reading about Azithromycin I took 500mg Azithromycin, another 500 twice yesterday and again Today. Now my BP is down from 150/85 to 135/65.
How’s that for a Vitamin.
it still leaves unaddressed the matter of the damage the fine metal line used during angioplasty, to trace its way to the heart, does to the artery it is passed through. This process, I believe, simply inflicts more injuries to the inner artery wall, and starts the whole mess all over again. I understand, that doctors have found a way of passing the line through the artery with a great deal less chance of rupturing the artery. This has always been the most dangerous part of angioplasty, because if the artery is penetrated, it entails an immediate bypass.
in angioplasty, involving not simply breaking through clots, and flattening them out, but actually flushing out the mineralized clot. The report, which I’ll search for and send to you, when I find it, seems to be working for most patients.
I have been put on a subcription of beta blockers and aspirin for a high blood pressure ocurrance I had (was mostly due to stress from an idiot boss I had). Now I don’t stay hard as long. Could it be from the pills?
By the way, a chinese medicine practitioner told me that the little finger and penis are linked & that strengthening the little finger makes the little guy stronger. She said when men lose their little finger in an accident they often become impotent. Anyone hear of this before? Or am I doing little finger pushups in vain!
I have been reading a suggestion that in order to help with impotence I should take an aromatase inhibitor. This blocks androgens from converting to oestrogen. Androgens are needed for male potency. Has anyone tried an aromatase inhibitor for impotency, such as Grape Seed extract?
The suggestion comes from:
Following the advice in the article I have been taking Maca for the last three weeks and it has made no difference to me. My Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioner was not impressed with the contents of myomin referred to in the article for the purpose now suggested. Has anyone used it successfully?
What did help me was L arginine with pycynogel, try canadian pharmacy NFSNO.org it brought back some level of erection but not like it used to be.
I am trying to discover why I am not reacting strongly to sexual stimuli. I went to see a Heart specialist and he did not think I have arteriosclerosis. My testosterone levels are normal.
If your impotence came gradually, did they notice right at the beginning? Have they complained about lack of sex?. Does age make a difference? Are older women less interested any way? Have you been able to satisfy her orally or by other means, and does she like that alternative?
I started TRT thinking that was the cure for ED but it wasn’t.
I still receive hormone pellet therapy for its obvious benefits beginning back in 1991. Read Dr. Shippen’s book to understand the benefits of TRT.
I found a book by Dr. Goldstein in the local library and wrote to him at Boston Univ. for an appointment. He gave me an examination and a sample injection to see if I had leakage problems. It lasted for more than 4 hours and was then brought down easily with a second injection so I could safely go home to the Binghamton, NY area.
I was told by the nurse, Dr. Goldstein did the study for PGE which is now being used sildenafil citrate from this website www.sildenafilcitrate100mgonline.com and Caverject at a very nice profit for the pharmaceutical company. Dr. Goldstein experimented with that plus 2 other ingredients making trimix work better than Caverject in my opinion.
The pharmaceutical company was fearful trimix would compete successfully with caverject and stopped producing one of the ingredients Dr. Goldstein was using in the trimix. It was tough to buy it for a couple of years till other means were available to get it legally from another source.
Dr. Goldstein also repairs some leakage problems.
It still works at 76.
It looks like Applied Pharmacy did come up with a great idea of change the drug delivery method. No one like needle. I look forward to hearing your experience with new option. I also admire Applied Pharmacy’s great effort on research on this new trimix delivery system. I believe more options will be available in the near future, due to their research.
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not on the end of it. In order to make an airtight seal at the base of the penis, you must put a lot of KY jelly around the end of the tube. Very messy! Also, some men even need to shave their pubic hair to get a good seal. The Bonro is smaller, easier to use and can be left on the penis “no hands” as the erection develops. And the rings are more comfortable.
I tried generic viagra and generic tadalafil, with little success then bought the Erec aid pump.It works fine with a definite erection after pumping and then slipping the ring off the tube to maintain the erection.My wife really liked the erection and even helped “pump me up” .With a lot of lubrication,the lack of sponteneity was over come.The only problem was that I could not ejaculate and after a while of intercourse,then she would rub me. I had a very flaccid penis after taking the ring off. I was only able to ejaculate once with the ring on and that was a strange feeling being backed up.all in all it worked OK and my wife was a willing partner.I would suggest if you use the pump, to do the repeated pumping as an excerise several times a week to improve the blood flow.
although I was aware of it beforehand. I think it may take away a centimeter and to me that is well worth it to be able to have sex when I want to. I think any woman(at least my wife says), would be happy to lose a tiny % of a mans length for an erection that I suppose can last undefinitely. Again, if the pills or injections would do the trick I would much prefer that route, this is surgery in places that I’d rather not have cut, BUT the pills and everything else DOESNT work for me so if I have to have this surgery to have a normal sex life than I guess being able to sustain an erection a long time is something I can gladly (and happily) deal with. If you go to this link (or address), you can watch the surgery and they explain everything.Its about 10 minutes long and VERY graphic so be forewarned. After you see the surgery you can hit the “view related programs” button then click the”Penile Implants:A long term solution?”and they have interviews with 2 guys and 1 of their partners 18 months afterwards. I think you or anyone who is considering this should check them out. Granted they are made with an unrestricted grant from AMS, so there is some question of total objectivity, but the surgery is real and it is NOT pretty and it could scare you off, so watch the other interviews too. In less than 2 months I can let y’all know firsthand about the surgery and 6 weeks after that I can let y’all know how the test drive went. Unless I’m too busy with other things. Anyways check the webcast out and let us know what you thought about it…
this has wrecked my life in some ways.i didnt accept it until i was about 27. since then i have tried all the snake oils and latest meds.im 31 now and thinking i would have a implant now so i can atleast have sex in my younger years.one thing i am nervous about the implant is that it supposedly makes your penis shorter.this may sound like a silly worry to some,but to me it is a concern becuase i dont have that much to give up already.did your doc warn you of that?